I’m going to have to get meta on you for a sec here.
I’ve been thinking.
I’m not fundamentally a bad person. I don’t condone
rape. But I can’t say with any certainty that a year ago a post such as (warning: potential trigger – rape) this one
would have upset me as much as it does now.
I probably would have looked at it, thought, “Why would you want to read something like that?” and kept on scrolling.
I can’t cay with any certainty that the phrasing would have bothered me as it does now. Now I look at it and think, “What on earth
sort of person are you that could want to subject someone you (supposedly) love to something like that? What makes you think that you’re allowed to make light of, to trivialise something as serious, and damaging as rape
under the flag of Your Kink Is Not My Kink?”
But the awful, awful
thing is, the reason I bring this up in the first place, is that without having been friends with bedamn
for a year (give or take), I can’t say I would have been particularly bothered by it.
This is where the “I’m not fundamentally a bad person” thing comes in again. I wouldn’t have read it. I wouldn’t have prompted it. Even if I had
prompted it, I most probably wouldn’t have used those words.
Ask most of the people who know me; I’m not fundamentally a bad person.
But the fact that something has been so lacking in my education as to inure me to something that is as insensitive and unthinking as that prompt strikes me as being criminal. The fact that there is something missing in the prompter's education as to allow them to post something like that and think it okay
I’m not going to talk about rape culture in modern society. It’s not something I know anything about beyond what I’ve learned from a few scattered PD/H/PE lessons.
What I am going to say is this:
Whether it’s something I would personally like to read or not has nothing to do with it. I’m not asking you not to request a rape fic. All I’m asking, as a living, feeling human being to you, another living, feeling human being, is that you request it in a way that makes you seem
like a living, feeling human being.